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Newsletter September 2013
by guest writer Karen Boyes
Persistence is a fundamental element for success in all areas of life. Having natural talent is not a guarantee of success - it is the persistence when you find yourself posing a challenging problem or situation that determines the real success.
Persistence is the ability to stick to a task especially when the going gets tough. It is being able to hang in there and keep going when a task becomes challenging, never giving up and keeping on going.
Do you ever hear yourself say, "It's too hard," so you don't have to think any further? Do you crumple up your paper and say, "I can't do this" meaning so I don't have to do this? These behaviours show a lack of persistence. Dr Art Costa, the co-founder of the Habits of Mind, says "learning persistence is a matter of learning the strategies. Persistence does not just mean working to get it right. Persistence means knowing that getting stuck is a cue to 'try something else.'"
Here are ten strategies you might use or adapt to develop persistence:
1. Believe in yourself - You can do it!
2. Break the problem down into smaller pieces.
3. If your strategy doesn't work, back up and try another!
4. Make a plan to solve the problem.
5. Take a deep breath to help you relax.
6. Take a short break from the problem.
7. Picture yourself being successful.
8. Ask a friend to help.
9. Take time to think it through.
10. Give yourself a pep talk!
As Margaret Carty says, "Be like the postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there."
Karen Boyes, CEO Spectrum Education, www.spectrumeducation.com
Newsletter August 2013
WHAT I LEARNED FROM MY NAN'S DRESS
Recently there was a Home Sewn event on at The Dowse Art Museum in Wellington where it was suggested that people went along wearing something they had made, or had been made by their mother or grandmother. As I possess a dress my Nan had made, and have a friend who is very creative and makes lots of her own clothes and jewellery, we decided to go along.
My Nan had made the dress in the 1940's, after the Second World War, at a time when zips weren't used, and so she used press studs/domes to fasten the side of the dress. As it's not a style or colour of dress I normally wear – in fact I rarely wear dresses – it's been sitting in the wardrobe in a plastic bag for years and years.
"Show me what you’ll be wearing" said my friend when she was round at my house one day. I showed it to her. "Wow" she said, "look at all the detail, look at how she's finished the hem, look at the buttons she's handmade, look at the unusual way to fasten the belt, I wonder what the material is…" and so on. All of a sudden I looked at the dress in a way I'd never looked at it before.
When we got to the event there were around 200 people there. Two young women said to me "We've been discussing your dress and have decided it can't be home made as it looks too good". I explained to them that it had indeed been made by my grandmother over 60 years ago. Another woman rushed over to me "I love 1940's dresses, do you still have the pattern?" In fact lots of people specifically came to talk to me about the dress.
Later on I discovered that the two young women were two of the judges, and my Nan's dress was voted as the winner of the vintage dress section.
This was such a surprise to me, as much as I loved, and very much miss, my Nan, I'd left her dress in the wardrobe for a long time, unappreciated. It took other people to point out how special an item it was.
How often do we do this? How often do we possess something – perhaps an item – or more importantly something special about ourselves that we don’t appreciate, that we leave hidden for a long time? What gems are we missing? What have you got hidden?
Small step: Stop reading, and spend a couple of minutes thinking about an interest or ability that you haven't used for a long time and would like to. What is one small step you could take to bring this back into your life? Just one small step.
If you would like to see a photo of the dress, go to https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=562924587087342&set=a.562921987087602.1073741852.156520184394453&&theater
There is now a competition for the public to vote on the dresses. If you like my Nan's dress, feel free to click on 'like' by 1st September.
LIFE LESSONS TEENS CAN LEARN FROM COOKING
By guest writer Eva-Maria
A much debated topic around the world has always been around how much responsibility and amount of chores teens and children need to pick up at home. Perhaps this may not necessarily apply to your household, but your kids may find this helpful for their home.
This article was going to be called 'Getting Teens to Cook', but the more I started thinking about the subject, the more I realised that in fact, this article wasn't just about getting teens to help with a chore at home and take a load off you; it was much, much more than that.
There are only so many normal chores at home can teach teens - vacuuming, doing the dishes, etc. but cooking is a process - it's something that involves many aspects that they will need to grasp in order to enter adult life, so let's begin…
Life Lesson 1: Communication and Negotiation
In another of my teens article about household chores, I talked about coming up with a 'chores roster'. One of the easiest ways to get teens especially engaged in household chores is to make up a roster for 'cooking nights'. Whether you're making one or the other, both require some communication between family members about which days who can take. The concept is as easy as it seems, however I think it teaches teens more than just responsibilities at home. The idea is that depending on how many people in a household, which the week is divided up into, and each person knows exactly when their cooking night is on. Communication, planning ahead, and negotiations - if one member cannot make one cooking night, they can just swap with someone else, are all skills your teen will need to know about as an adult, so help them start gaining these skills at home.
Life Lesson 2: Helping Others
The key reason this is a worthy topic for an entire article is because firstly, it takes off the pressure from adults. How many times have you heard teens mutter that they don't like the food put in front of them? OK, hopefully it's not a regular occurrence, but kids and teens can be quite picky, so what's the best solution? Ask THEM to cook! If you find that there is only one or two adults in the home that actually do the cooking, the way to frame this new 'cooking roster' is around the fact that your teen will be helping you, while doing some productive for everyone at the same time.
Life Lesson 3: Fostering and Encouraging Innovation
With growing popularity of shows such as My Kitchen Rules around the country, the idea of cooking has become somewhat glamourised, and, well, it works! It's a fantastic way to express ourselves, a great way to experiment (increasing innovation in teens!), and of course have something worthy come out of the exercise at the end i.e. a fed household.
The idea of cooking may be scary for some teens, but they have the entire world at their fingertips through the internet - a recipe I saw on My Kitchen Rules the other night that I searched for online came back to show me that it would take me about 15 minutes to make the dessert I was after - and boy, was it perfect! Get them to search around and be creative about what they can do with ingredients available to them at home, or plan ahead for the next grocery shop.
Cooking will bring out their innovation - I admit, every time I get my hands on a recipe, after trialling here and there, I end up tailoring it to my liking. Not always a perfect outcome, but it's something, and it teaches me every time about combinations of ingredients, and so on. Cooking can help teens understand that every 'mistake' of experimenting can actually be saved - it's also about thinking on their feet.
Life Lesson 4: Budgeting and Future Planning
The first step is, at the start of the week, or even on the weekend to go grocery shopping - this means the teens will need to budget carefully and plan for their cooking nights ahead. This will better their budgeting skills, as well as their planning skills. For teens, it's important to live one day at a time - the world has so much to offer, so helping them show that planning isn't 'scary' or 'unattainable' is a skill that will help them get closer to figuring out how they can figure out the bigger things in life. Sounds dumb, but it's true!
Life Lesson 5: Time Management
My Kitchen Rules is a show that gives a great example about the importance of time management. The way you could 'sell' the idea of cooking to your teen is by getting them to work to a time. Say dinner should be ready by 7pm, get them to start at 5.30pm and see how well they go. Of course you can help them the first couple of times, but the more they cook, the better they will become at taking time into account when cooking. Also, if your teen tends to spend little time at home, it will mean they will have to time manage their activities outside of home better so that they are back home and ready to feed the family by a specific time.
So there you have it - the Life Lessons teens can learn, just by starting at home in a controlled environment - after all, that is what parenting is all about - fostering teens skills, energy and time, in order to help them 'blossom' into wonderful adults. I wish you well on your mission to do this with the teen/s in your life, and hope you have many nights of yummy dinners at your place!
Eva-Maria as bestselling author of 'You Shut Up!' and its sequel 'Shush, You!' is an international speaker and family coach in her expert subjects of intergenerational relationships and social media. Based in Wellington, New Zealand, Eva-Maria is on a mission to help improve 10 Million inter-generational relationships around the world through her work - you are just one more reader, touched by this mission, and she hopes you can pass this onto other parents you think will get great value from this article. http://www.eva-maria.co.nz/
Newsletter July 2013
GOALS VS. CORE VALUES
By guest writer Christene Loweth
I thought that setting goals was so easy; just decide what you want to do, when.
Well, after doing some study for myself I found out that, NO it is not that simple, and it has made me understand why I have found certain goals easy to achieve while others seem to elude me. So what is this?
Alignment with your core values.
What drives you, makes you push through, say YES to things or NO to others, and when you say yes you feel deep down that it just isn't right.
Find out what are your core values, ask yourself and friends – what do they think you stand for?
Do your values align with your goals?
I love to travel and to have the freedom to make up my mind when I will work. I am happy to work, I thrive from working, but to hold down a 9 – 5 job would probably drive me insane. Others would find what I do so stressful, they would hate it. Yes if I want time away or a week off work, or am sick (dread the thought) I have to plan, and make sure I have the funds in the bank account. No sick pay or holiday for me. This might not be what is okay for you, the security of a regular pay cheque and to know you have holiday pay and sick pay could be critical to you.
I love my family and they come first for me. I nearly cancelled a trip for myself as I felt I was being selfish (although my children are young adults) and were cheering me along to go. I felt I needed to prioritise them.
So what are your core values and are they in alignment with your goals, are they helping you or stopping you? Core values don't change but you can look at altering your goals so they are in alignment with your values.
Also, it is important that the connecting steps to meeting the final goal are also in alignment with your core values. 'Loyalty' is important to me, so to meet a goal of having a new home with all the newest gadgets meant I had to be disloyal; it wouldn't work for me. This is right for me, so what is right for you?
Ask yourself, What is a goal of mine? What are the steps to reaching that goal? And are all the steps compatible with my core values?
It is such a thrill for me to meet my goals now that I have a better understanding of why I have not managed other goals.
What about YOU?
Thank you VSSMIND for the insight.
Christene Loweth, Strategic Intervention Coach, www.houseofoils.co.nz
Newsletter June 2013
DO SOMETHING SCARY
Make a decision to do something that takes you out of your comfort zone today - or once a week - or every day for a year! The more we confront our fears, the more our confidence can build and the more we get out of life.
Once we make a decision to do this - or even think about making a decision - it's fairly common for thoughts of 'fear' to pop into our head, the "I can’t do its" and the "What ifs".
That's OK, it's normal. Sally Ride, the first female astronaut in space said "All adventures, especially into new territory, are scary", so if you have these thoughts – and let's be honest, most of us aren't going to do anything as scary as Sally - you are in good company.
Let the thoughts come, and then work out a way to deal with them so they don't hold you back. There are many ways to tackle these thoughts, including:
Writing down. Decide on a viable action. Then get a piece of paper and a) write it down; b) write down the date you will do it by; c) write down what the benefits will be and how you will feel afterwards; and then d) put it where you will see it regularly.
Compare thoughts. What scares one person may not scare somebody else at all. Many things are not intrinsically scary. For example, public speaking. As a professional speaker, I'm very comfy in front of an audience. I completely understand that a lot of people aren't. One of the differences is the thoughts that people have about an issue, not the issue itself.
So, a person who is scared of public speaking and who has received an invitation to speak may, for example, have thoughts along the lines of "People will think I'm a terrible speaker; I'll feel so bad that I’ll forget what to say; I won't be as good as any of the other speakers; the audience will find me very boring …"
Whereas someone who is happy to speak to an audience might think, for example "Oh great, I'd love to share my message with a group of interested people and I’ll make sure I prepare a really good presentation".
Love is at the opposite end of the continuum to fear, so when you decide on an action and the 'fear' thoughts pop up, work out what kind of thoughts a person who loves doing it would have. Allow yourself to see if from a different perspective and start moving, mentally, towards that perspective.
Be wise in the actions you choose. George S Patton, US General, said "Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash". Choose actions that don't endanger you; give thought to their viability.
Learn from others. If the doubts are there, gain inspiration by talking to or reading about people who have already done what you want to do.
Keep taking steps! In the words of Winston Churchill "Never, never, never give up". Keep moving forward, even in tiny steps. Failure is often caused by doing nothing, and if we stop, we are training our mind to 'do nothing' rather than 'do something'. No matter how small the step forward may seem, do it!
So, ... what is your 'something scary'?
What would increase your comfort zone; build your confidence; make you feel good about yourself? Each of us will have different actions it would be useful to take. As a starter, how about:
make an appointment with the dentist
agree to speak at an event
tell a family member you love them
go to a party on your own
jump off the diving board at the pool
ask someone out on a date
leave your job
spend the day on your own
pick up a spider and look at it
start writing that novel
enrol at dancing classes
book an appointment with a counsellor
apply for a job that seems too high a level
inform an organisation that they offer poor service
learn to ride a bike
go along to a group where others are very different to you
try a new type of food at a restaurant
learn to use a new type of technology
… and maybe blog about what you're doing...?
What's your first action going to be?
Newsletter May 2013
ARE YOU CARING FOR SOMEONE WHO IS LIVING WITH DEMENTIA? Guest article by Gillian Hesketh
Most of us know that dementia is a loss of mental ability which interferes with normal activities of daily living. A decline in memory; reasoning, judgement, problem solving may leave people living with dementia feeling vulnerable and in need of constant reassurance.
Around twenty-five million people in the UK have a relative or friend living with dementia. Facts and figures show that approximately 800,000 people have dementia and this figure is expected to rise to over one million by 2021. In the UK, there are 670,000 carers of people with dementia of which, two-thirds are women. One third of people with dementia live in a residential care home which means that two-thirds are living at home. (Facts & figures reported courtesy of: www.alzheimers.org.uk)
Caring for someone with dementia is a kind and generous act yet caring for someone else can take up so much of our time that we often forget to look after ourselves. Many carers don't think once about their own needs, putting their lives on hold whilst they carry on caring. As a carer it's quite normal to feel deeply responsible, overwhelmed, left out, exhausted or even guilty, and it could become too easy to lose sight of the on-going-ness of life.
Especially when you are a carer it's important to take care of you too. Choosing a healthy lifestyle can develop strength of body and mind. Taking some time out for you could boost your own sense of well-being. Feeling well may place us in a better position to manage the extra responsibilities when caring.
Take a look at your day to find where you can make some time just for you - even if it's only ten minutes to begin with. Don't be afraid to talk to family, friends or support workers about how you’re feeling - or to ask for help. Join a gym, club or team, create a hobby, visit a museum or join a choir. You could take a long leisurely bath, bake a favourite recipe, read a book, go for a walk, a swim, do some gardening, play or watch an outdoor sport, learn a new skill, attend a course. Contact your nearest carers' centre for help, support and useful contacts. Most of all – do something just for YOU.
Doing things together may help the person you care for. Activities don't have to be complicated or lengthy and may stave boredom, quieten agitation, calm frustrations and help to maintain skills. Keep the person involved in daily tasks as much as you can. As ninety-three per cent of language is body language, it's important to bear this in mind when caring for someone with dementia. Watch out for their actions for signs of discomfort. Use plenty of eye contact. Try not to have lots of noise happening simultaneously ie. TV, Washing Machine, Tumble Dryer, Vacuum.
People with dementia have an ability to recall past events in great detail. Reminiscing and sharing memories is one way to develop conversations, appreciate someone's life and validate their achievements. My Memory Jogger is a colourful interactive booklet for people with dementia, family, friends, carers and support workers. A place for personal recollections, a space to record stories and add photographs, resulting in an exquisite family legacy. Happy Days is also running half-day workshops in the UK for Carers at home or in Residential Care Homes or Domiciliary Care: Social Interaction and Activities for Carers - includes Themed Memory Box
Picture Prompts - Picture Bingo - Dementia Day Planners - Labels for Recognition
Themed Memory Boxes: - World War II, By the Seaside, Make Do and Mend
Contact Gillian Hesketh
Last month we looked at self-guided meditations. If you tried this, have a look back over what you've written during the last month and see if there are any additional messages you get by looking at them as a whole.
This month I’d like to share with you one of my guided meditations. Read it through a few times so you know what to do without having to stop and look:
Sit calmly, upright, without arms or legs crossed.
Take several low, slow breaths, letting yourself relax more with each breath. Ask for protection from your guides/angels/god…
Imagine yourself walking slowly down ten steps and becoming more relaxed with each step you take.
At the bottom of the stairs go through a gate.
Over to the left is a small boat on the edge of a lake.
Get into the boat and go over to a small island.
Get out of the boat and walk along the shore.
There are lots of white doves on the shore, each of which has its own meaning.
Choose one, and ask what its meaning is.
Choose another and ask for this meaning.
Finally choose a third and ask what its meaning is.
A person or being approaches you. They are your guide. You can ask them a question if you would like to.
After you have spoken to them, thank them.
It is now time to return.
You are able to bring the 3 doves back with you.
Get into the boat, return to the other side of the lake. Go through the gate and up the stairs slowly.
Come back into the room, and make a note of any messages you received.
Have a cup of tea to bring you back to the real world!
I love many of Winston Churchill’s quotes; he has some sage advice for life:
• If you're going through hell, keep going.
• Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
• You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.
• Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.
• Never, never, never give up.
Newsletter March & April 2013
MEDITATION - MY INTERESTING DISCOVERY
For a year before I left the UK, I went to a weekly meeting where the first thing we did was a guided meditation. The woman who ran the group suggested that I also do regular self-guided meditations on my own and write them down in a notebook. I did, and made a note of everything that happened in the meditation.
Although I’ve been doing meditations over a number of years, I still wonder at times when I get a message “Am I making this up?” However, I wrote down every message, even though some of them didn’t seem to make sense.
Last week I decided to read through all the meditations I’d done. I was amazed! Although I couldn’t see it at the time - and I can now with hindsight - so many of the messages were accurate. Surprisingly so.
For example I did some support work for an organisation for a while. Several times the message I received in the meditation was to keep my distance from the person in charge. I couldn’t understand this as she was a pleasant person and I got on well with her. A couple of months after these messages I had a phone call from a third party explaining that they had discovered the woman had been misappropriating funds, and that any people involved with the organisation could be in the spotlight.
In addition, reading through the messages now, they have helped me gain a greater understanding of issues in my life, have been motivational and have helped me make decisions for going forward.
Furthermore, the simple act of sitting quietly for a few minutes and the ensuing feeling of peace and calm are a benefit in themselves.
If this is of interest to you, this is what I do:
(These are self-guided meditations, next month I will include a guided meditation.)
Firstly, choose when you want to do them. I personally don’t have a regular time, nor do I do them daily, but if doing them at a regular time suits you better, then go with that.
Reduce distractions, eg turn off phone, wait till the children are occupied, etc.
Get notepad and pen ready.
Sit calmly, upright, without arms or legs crossed.
Take several low, slow breaths, letting yourself relax more with each breath. You can imagine yourself walking slowly down ten steps and becoming more relaxed with each step you take.
Ask for protection from your guides/angels/god…
Greet your guide / whoever you expect to receive messages from.
Ask your question.
Wait for an answer. For me, sometimes answers come quickly and effortlessly, at other times I may get a very short answer, occasionally I get no answer at all and so call it a day and do the meditation another day.
Write down the message.
Ask the next question(s)
Thank your guides.
If this is new to you, it may not make sense, you may think it won’t work, and you may get no messages. Persevere. It may not happen immediately, but with practice, it will happen. You may also, like me, not understand what you are given at the time, but keep hold of them and look back on them at a later date.
GIVE A LITTLE
From 2008-2010 my family and I were on a semi-sabbatical in a wonderful little town in Uganda called Jinja.
Recently I met up with Amy Church, a playground-designer, who is about to go to Jinja to do voluntary work with East African Playgrounds a registered charity that aims to change the lives of children across East Africa by developing children’s learning opportunities and environments.
Schools in Uganda are generally fairly basic buildings without a playground. An initiative like this will not only have the benefit of working alongside the local community, but will also produce a definite benefit for the children at school.
If you would like to know more about it and support the cause please go to Amy’s Give a Little page www.givealittle.co.nz/cause/imaginarium where you can make online donations.
Do you make decisions based on who you are or who you want to be?
Newsletter February 2013
20 TIPS FOR KEEPING YOUR BRAIN ACTIVE
It's easy to keep doing the same things over and over and not introduce new elements into our lives.
To keep our brain active and healthy it's good to use it in different ways and start activating different parts. There are many ways to do this. Here are 20 suggestions for you:
1. Read about something you don't normally read about, such as a new type of book, a magazine article or blog entry on a new topic.
2. Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Can you offer to speak at the next staff meeting; make contact with a neighbour you haven't yet spoken to; touch a spider; learn to ride a bike?
3. Do an activity using your non-dominant hand such as brushing your teeth; the vacuuming; combing your hair.
4. Do some maths regularly! For example choose five numbers. Add them. Then multiply them. Move onto six numbers, seven numbers and so on. Choose exercises that suit your mathematical ability.
5. Enrol on a course, for example a night class or online course, to stimulate your brain. Have you thought about Japanese cooking; Feldenkrais; Belly dancing?
6. Get active - run, dance, play a sport for example. Something that will increase the levels of oxygen in your brain and body.
7. Change a routine so you don't go onto automatic pilot. Do you shower, get dressed, have breakfast? Could you shower, have breakfast, then get dressed? Do you come home and watch TV every Friday? Could you ask a friend round and cook a meal together; read a book; do some DIY?
8. Solve a problem for yourself or someone else by thinking outside the box. What issue do you - or someone you know - have? Think of a unique solution.
9. Take time to plan something you don't normally plan. For example the weekly meals; a quiet weekend at home; how to spruce up the garden.
10. Discover something new. Could you drive home a slightly different way; seek out different foods at the supermarket; go for a walk round a different park?
11. Spend a few minutes learning something new - type a topic you don't know anything about into a search engine and read up on it. Close your eyes and type random letters into a search engine and follow a link.
12. Take a trip down memory lane - look at old photos, old letters, even old documents you have stored on your computer. It keeps memories alive.
13. Do something creative. Make a greeting card; try a new recipe; take some artistic photos.
14. Learn the lyrics of a song.
15. Learn a list. For example the 10 tallest mountains in the world, the NATO phonetic alphabet, the winners of the Oscars.
16. Meditate and let your brain go to a different level. You could use a CD or find a guided meditation on You Tube.
17. Do something that involves hand eye coordination, for example throwing a ball into a container from a distance; learning a coin trick.
18. Once a week, spend a few minutes writing down an overview of how you dealt with the week - what you are proud of doing, and what you could work on for next time.
19. Do something completely different! For example plan a walking trip with a friend; organise a fundraising event; join an amateur dramatic group - something that will require your brain to work on something different for an extended period of time.
20. Play a brain training game or exercise. You can find games and puzzles on my blog: http://www.kimchamberlain.com/kims-kaizen-blog.html
Newsletter January 2013
My family and I will be moving back to live in New Zealand soon, and as a result friends and family want to see us before we leave. This is great, and it's wonderful to be able to catch up with people.
It's common to make time to see people before they move away, or when they are ill and are likely to pass away. It's not always common to make time to see or connect with people at other times, and we can put it to the back of our mind, thinking "I'll get round to that one day".
We came back to the UK knowing that we would be here for a couple of years, and have made an effort to spend time with our families and friends during this time. Looking back over the two years, I haven't at all regretted the time we have spent with them. If I were to look back and realise we hadn't made an effort to see people, I would definitely regret that.
When we lived in East Africa, some of the Ugandans would tell us how sorry they felt for people in the western world.
"Your people are ruled by the clock" they would say "you put tasks always before people. Why do you not see your loved ones? Why do you not stop and spend time with them? Why are you always so busy? Your loved ones are the most important thing in the world."
It was interesting seeing people in a third world country feeling sorry for people in first world countries, and it was certainly food for thought. Have we got it right? Are we making time for our loved ones?
Yesterday I spent the day with a friend I've known all my life. She had recently found some of the letters I'd sent her several years ago when I first emigrated to NZ, before the age of email, texts and social media. In fact even before the age of word processors, so my letters were hand written. I have always loved writing to people and connecting via the written word, but even I was surprised at how much time I must have spent handwriting pages and pages on a regular basis. And that was just to one friend. I will have written to other friends and to my family as well.
One of the benefits of the age that we live in now means that we can connect with others very easily and quickly via a range of technology options. A brief email or message via Facebook, for example, need not take long and can do so much for a relationship.
I know a woman whose aunt has discovered she has three months to live. This woman hasn't kept in touch with her aunt over the last few years and is now in a quandary, wondering whether she should make contact and go to see her or not. She feels guilty for not keeping in contact, and so feels uncomfy about contacting her now; but she also knows she will feel guilty if she doesn't make contact with her. "If only..." she says.
I leave you with a question: Are you happy with the amount of time you make to see or connect with your loved ones?
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